Ever come across people who are so articulate that you almost wonder how is it they know so much and are so well versed in the topic or issue at hand. They are able to quote, reference or even provide evidence with such ease.
Well, maybe just maybe it is because these people have picked up a skill that not many of us have mastered.....the skill of copying, editing and improvising.
What do I mean? Well it is simple. Suppose, what they say was something they read from somewhere or heard from someone, is it possible they could have just regurgitated what they picked up but have it modified and spinned such it looks original and true. It is possible right?.
There are many such people in our society who have mastered this art so much so they have been so good at it that it almost seems as if the idea, experience or even they were the authors to the stories.
If only intellectual property rights covered this aspect, many people would have gone home bankrupt.
It is not so easy to spot these kind of people especially if you have met them for the first time. They can press the right buttons in front of you such you can be moved as if they are the next best thing on a hot day to shaved ice.
......over my years of working in different roles, I have found people who do this are the ones who sit in senior positions and have no clue of what is happening on the ground but pretend to know. They simply articulate their thoughts as if they were there, as if they had first hand knowledge and with little acknowledgement to those who actually did go through the trauma, torture, suffering or bliss.
The ones who do know how to use others sound bites as well as share others stories must be applauded and given full credit...but let me tell you there are many who just enjoy living on the stories of others..
Here are some tips I have picked up from my experience of how to spot these kind of people who live on the stories of others:
1. Relevance - at times you will find the topic or discussion or intervention may come in with little relevance but with such a bang that to an experience person, they may wonder what was that all about.....test the story by asking if the person was there or ask for more details and you will find the subject matter will shift or the person will display a form of "Tai Chi" by avoiding your question.
2. Timing - how recent was the episode. In most cases, the person will share something the person had just learned or picked up from a cocktail conversation, an article or a story which was related very recently. To find out if the story was recent, you can spot it in the context of how the person delivers their story, was it timed based and was it referenced to something that had happened recently....old stories do not get articulated....
3. Manner of presentation - in most cases the way the subject was presented would be to show the person had significant business intelligence or is aware of the trends and the pulse on the ground...it is a way to show that the person knows more than others...
4. Reliability - almost most of the time these kind of personalities will say their sources or the information they have is reliable ( in not so many words) without asking. They will give details as if you asked for it and they will go as far as saying they got the news from the horses mouth. They want to establish authenticity.
5. They like to listen to their voice - what you say does not matter but what they say matters. The more they speak and listen to themselves the more they can reassure themselves they are doing justice and elevating the conversation to something that is of perceived desire to the audience.
So the next time someone you meet for the first time sweeps you off your feet, take sometime to hold yourself to the ground and ask yourself some pertinent questions if this is really true...
.....after all from my experience the person who has a lot to share has little to speak about...
"Speak your truth quietly & clearly; and listen to others, even the dull & ignorant; they too have their story."
Max Ehrmann, from Desiderata